Appendix C 197
Unmet Core Childhood Needs and Their Associated Schema
Modes
• Lack of secure attachment
– Vulnerable child: The experience of intense loneliness, fear anxiety, sadness
• Lack of validation of feelings and needs, guidance, self-control, and realistic limits
– Angry child: Anger due to perceived unfair treatment or unmet needs
– Impulsive/undisciplined child: Reactively acts on personal desires, with no regard
to other’s needs or limits
• Rejection and suppression of any core need, in particular love, validation, praise,
acceptance, and guidance
– Punitive critic: Harshly punishes and rejects self
– Demanding critic: Pressures self to achieve unreasonably high expectations
• Any unmet childhood need can produce Maladaptive Coping Modes
– Avoidant protector: Breaks relational connections, isolates, physically avoids,
withdraws, dissociates
– Overcompensator: Does the opposite of the early maladaptive schema as a cop-
ing style to counterattack and control; may be somewhat adaptive at times (e.g.,
perfectionistic overcontroller at work)
– Compliant surrender: Acts as if the schema is true, surrendering to it. For example,
in the defectiveness/shame schema, gives up and accepts self as without worth
• Any unmet childhood need can lead to an underdeveloped healthy adult mode
– Healthy adult (underdeveloped): Meets one’s needs in a healthy and mature
manner, enjoying pleasures, maintaining healthy bonds, and fulfilling adult life
requirements