rites. In general, mourning lasted seven days. The
deceased was lamented with cries. Prominent persons
were honored with special mourning songs. Grief was
also expressed through one’s clothing. The clothes were
torn, sandals and the headdress were taken off, and one
put on a sackcloth. Someone mourning stopped washing
and anointing oneself. Instead, he or she rolled in ashes
and dust. It was also put on the head. One let the hair
hang down, tore it out or cut part of the hair and beard.
The mourner beat himself or even cut himself with a
knife. During the period of mourning one fasted,
although there sometimes were also funeral meals. The
precise meaning and background of these rites is
disputed. They can be interpreted as attempts to bring
about a ritual communion between the living and the
dead. The mourner tries to give something of his bodily
strength, represented by the hair and the flesh or food to
support it, to transfer a part of the vitality of the living
to the deceased (Van der Toorn, 1996, p. 210). One can
also see these mourning customs as a means of
sympathetic identification of the living with the dead:
the living express their communion with the dead by
acting as if they were dead themselves as having
descended into the netherworld as the land of the dust
and as if their bodies are also decaying (Spronk, 1986,
pp. 244–247). Be this as it may, it is clear that the fate of
the dead is regarded as pitiful.
Some of these mourning customs are probably
originally related to the cult of the dead, which was
based on the belief that the dead and the living could
mutually support each other. These ideas may have
persisted in folk religion, as can be derived from attested
practices of necromancy. In the Hebrew Bible, however,
the world of the dead and the world of the living are
strictly separated. Comfort for the mourning has to be
found in this life. This can be clearly demonstrated with
the story of David, Bathseba and their grief concerning
their first born son. Because of their adulterous relation-
ship this boy is doomed to die. God strikes him with a
deadly disease. David mourns as if the child was already
dead, but not as an act of despair. Apparently he hopes
for a turning of the fate. When it not arrives, he stops
mourning. Together with Bathseba he finds comfort in
the conception and birth of a new son.
And the LORD struck the child that Uriah’s wife
(Bathseba, KS) bare unto David, and it was very
sick. David therefore besought God for the child; and
David fasted, and went in, and lay all night upon the
earth. And the elders of his house arose, and went to
him, to raise him up from the earth; but he would
not, neither did he eat bread with them. And it came
to pass on the seventh day, that the child died. And
the servants of David feared to tell him that the child
was dead; for they said, Behold, while the child was
yet alive, we spake unto him, and he would not
hearken unto our voice; how will he then vex himself,
if we tell him that the child is dead? But when David
saw that his servants whispered, David perceived that
the child was dead; therefore David said unto his
servants, Is the child dead? And they said, He is dead.
Then David arose from the earth, and washed, and
anointed himself, and changed his apparel, and came
into the house of the LORD, and worshiped; then he
came to his own house; and when he required, they
set bread before him, and he did eat. Then said his
servants unto him, What thing is this that thou hast
done? Thou didst fast and weep for the child, while it
was alive; but when the child was dead, thou didst
rise and eat bread. And he said, While the child was
yet alive, I fasted and wept; for I said, Who can tell
whether GOD will be gracious to me, that the child
may live? But now he is dead, wherefore should I
fast? Can I bring him back again? I shall go to him,
but he shall not return to me. And David comforted
Bathseba his wife, and went in unto her, and lay with
her; and she bare a son, and he called his name
Solomon: and the LORD loved him. (2 Samuel
12:15–24)
Burial is often described as ‘going to the ancestors’ or
being ‘gathered to his people’. The connection with the
generations, both the preceding and the following, is an
important element of the good death. The common way
to be related to one’s ancestors is by being buried in the
family tomb and by being named together in the
genealogy. Also the relation to future generations and
the certainty that the family line is not broken is an
important comfort for the dying. This is illustrated by
the remark of Jacob (here named Israel) after he is
reunited with Joseph, be it that Joseph was not his only
son but his favourite:
I can die now, having seen for myself that you are
still alive. (Genesis 46:30)
Another important element, which can be found with
all three patriarchs, is the combination of dying in peace
and having offspring. The history of the patriarchs
repeats itself when it comes to the difficulties between
their sons: Isaac and Ishmael, Jacob and Esau, Joseph
and his brothers. As we read in Genesis 25:9, Isaac and
Ishmael came together again to bury their father. The
same is said of Jacob and Esau in Genesis 35:29 and of
Joseph and his brothers in Genesis 50:13. Comparing
these reports of the death and burial of the patriarchs
one can also note a final criterion for a good death: one
must be buried in one’s own land. With regard to
Abraham it was emphasised that the tomb for him and
his wife was properly acquired. Isaac and Jacob are
buried there as well. To do so, the sons of Jacob have to
make a long journey from Egypt. One can refer in this
connection also to the last wish of the 80 years old
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